Sent to my husband via email on Friday:
A reader left a comment wondering if I was a INTJ personality. I didn’t know what she was talking about so I looked online and read the description and thought it was pretty spot on. I took the personality test and what do you know… that is my personality type. SOOOOO weird. Apparently only .08% of women are this personality type.
Read this and see if you think it sounds like me.
My husbands response: Wow.
Sent to my mother via email on Friday:
A reader suggested that I was an INTJ {personality type}. I didn’t know what she was talking about so I had to look it up. Would you say this describes me? I was cracking up as I was reading it.
My mother’s response: “Oh yeah baby. It has Mavis written all over it. Wowie, you have this nailed.”
So. What am I talking about?
“The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is an introspective self-report questionnaire claiming to indicate psychological preferences in how people perceive the world around them and make decisions” ~ Wikipedia
It all started in the comment section on Friday’s Bits and Bobs post. Presumably, the comment was in reference to my questioning Mrs. HB about her luggage and shoe selections.
Sarah – Have you had any posts about personality type, Mavis? I’m an INTJ and you totally speak my language.
Mavis – Sarah, you have just opened my eyes. I LOVE you.
Sarah – I love you! INTJ women are super rare. Like a fraction of a percent of the population. I’ve always felt like a weirdo because I approach things much differently than most women I know. The amazing thing is that most of my favorite bloggers are INTJ women! And they help me feel less of a weirdo 🙂
If you haven’t taken an MBTI test yet, this is what I had my husband and mom use recently. Understanding our personalities has totally helped those relationships.
Mavis – I took the test and it was spot on. Just sent this to my mother and the HH to see what they think. Hey! We are normal… in a 0.08% kind of way. So, so interesting. Thank you for commenting. We are not weirdos. We are unique. On a side note, I am totally going to have MRS.HB take the test. I can’t wait to see what she is.
Sarah – This makes me SO HAPPY, Mavis. Yay for the INTJ ladies!
Kayla – I’m an INTJ woman too. You are not crazy Sarah or Mavis-just rare. That is why I love reading this blog. So many of your (Mavis’) quirks are mine too.
ARCHITECT PERSONALITY (INTJ, -A/-T)
“It’s lonely at the top, and being one of the rarest and most strategically capable personality types, Architects know this all too well. Architects form just two percent of the population, and women of this personality type are especially rare, forming just 0.8% of the population – it is often a challenge for them to find like-minded individuals who are able to keep up with their relentless intellectualism and chess-like maneuvering. People with the Architect personality type are imaginative yet decisive, ambitious yet private, amazingly curious, but they do not squander their energy.”
Architects radiate self-confidence and an aura of mystery, and their insightful observations, original ideas and formidable logic enable them to push change through with sheer willpower and force of personality. At times it will seem that Architects are bent on deconstructing and rebuilding every idea and system they come into contact with, employing a sense of perfectionism {Clearly, they are not talking about my grammar here} and even morality to this work.
A paradox to most observers, Architects are able to live by glaring contradictions that nonetheless make perfect sense – at least from a purely rational perspective {absolutely}. For example, Architects are simultaneously the most starry-eyed idealists and the bitterest of cynics, a seemingly impossible conflict. But this is because Architect personalities tend to believe that with effort, intelligence and consideration, nothing is impossible, while at the same time they believe that people are too lazy, short-sighted or self-serving to actually achieve those fantastic results. Yet that cynical view of reality is unlikely to stop an interested Architect from achieving a result they believe to be relevant.” {Wowza}
~ source www.16personalities.com/intj-personality
I then went through and read everything {the theory?} had to say about my strength and weaknesses, my personality and emotions, my take on romantic relationships, on raising kids, friendships {and why I have so few}. My career paths and probably why I had such a difficult time with idleness last winter with that seasonal job, because of my working style.
For better or worse… I had never read truer words about myself. For me, the descriptions of who I am and how I think, were SPOT ON.
Before taking the personality test and reading all those things about my strengths and weaknesses, I thought I was the way I was because of my surroundings {high maintenance suburbia} and the disdain for all the seemingly mindless noise that comes with it. But apparently, it’s not my surroundings, it’s me. It’s all in my head. This is just how my brain works. How I process information and spit it back out again.
And you know what? It’s pretty freakin’ fascinating. To me at least.
Strengths
Self-confident
Takes relationship seriously
Good listener
Embraces conflict instead of fearing it
Intelligent
Able to easily move on from a relationship when it’s over
Weaknesses:
Often insensitive
Tends to approach conflict without enough emotion
Perfectionist to a fault
Tendency to keep part of you to yourself, especially your feelings
* source
Taking the test was like going to a shrink, telling them everything, and then instead of them charging you thousands of dollars and making you go back for more sessions, you walk away with a print out of why you are the way you are. How people see you. And how you see yourself.
I think EVERYONE should take this personality test.
Seriously. Go do it. For me. And for you.
And then let us know in the comment section what personality type you are and if the results were spot on or not.
~Mavis
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Cat says
I saw that comment last week, and actually went digging on my own because it made me curious! Turns out according to the test I’m a INFJ (which is about 1% of the population). Not where I thought I’d be but makes total sense. I tried it about four times to make sure! Also made my husband do the test and I was close! He was surprised though.
Linda says
I’m an INFP or the Mediator. I tend to seek harmony over being right. I value flexibility and like to remain open minded. For years I’d been a extrovert but age has made me an introvert.
Heidi P says
Me Too!
Brandyce says
So am I. Before i found out I was INTJ i was trying to explain to my grandmother why im not a bad person because i dont like working in groups (she is very E–J). She swore I was going to fail in college because I didnt bring home people everyday (ever) for study sessions or gather with a bunch of people to discuss whatever groups of women discuss. I was always at the top of my classes and spend most of my spare time looking for more things to learn and ways to solve problems. I’ve always been the ‘odd-ball’ but never bothered by it. Some people say I’m emotion-less, but I think crying about issues is a waste of time when that time could be spent coming up with a solution . I’m an unrealistic perfectionist in most area’s of my life and completely lazy in others. I’m told i over think everything andi dont make a move without a plan. I rarely make the same mistakes twice. Its hard to shut my brain off most of the time and in relationships im emtionally awkward. I am INTJ
Gwenn says
Me too, INFP-T. I’ve taken this and other similar tests such as Strength Finder and while there might be slight variations the results are pretty much the same.
Kathy says
My older son is an INTJ, and it describes him quite accurately as well. Because INTJ’s are so rare, up until now I didn’t know any others. One of my worries is that the description warns that these types may not be able to be in sustained relationships or even marry…you’ve given me hope! HA! Interestingly my younger son is the complete opposite of his brother, he’s an ESFP. Crazy! I had to make an acronym to be able to remember my type, wonder what that says about me? ISFJ – I Saw Fat Jackalopes! 🙂
Mavis Butterfield says
So apparently the best mate for an INTJ person is an ENTP or ENFP. Although my husband is neither of those. 😉 The fat jackalopes is hilarious!
Patti says
I am an ISFJ as well and the test was pretty spot on!
Anita says
Many years ago, I worked for a company where all permanent staff were tested and their personality type was posted on their cubicle wall and in the internal telephone directory. Because I was a contractor, I was not expected to take the test. Initially, I thought the whole MBTI testing and posting the personality type was a bunch of nonsense, kind of “new agey”, and somewhat invasive of people’s privacy, but eventually I reconsidered. Part of my job involved conducting interviews with a considerable number of the permanent staff. I started to look up their MBTI type before meeting with them and structured my approach to suit their type. Eventually, I gave in and took the test – I am an INTJ. I just took this test and same results – INTJ.
Marcia says
I love these things, but mine change over time.
I’m pretty strong “TJ” but middle of the road on the others. So sometimes I’m ESTJ. More recently, INTJ. When I was managing a group my ESTJ was definitely stronger – but changes in my work methods pulled me back towards INTJ.
Today’s test was ISTJ. So, always middle on E/I (I have both introverted and extroverted tendencies).
ISTJ – Logistician
ESTJ – Executive
Ronda says
Yep, I go back and forth when I take the test between and E/I but not major either way so it always depended on when I take it. Though I tend to think of myself as an Introvert who can pretend to be an Extrovert. Though I do think I fit descriptions in both the ESFJ & ISFJ.
Personality tests are a great way to learn more about yourself.
Jo says
I’ve had the full Meyers-Briggs professionally administered 3 times and I flip flop each time. It definitely depends on your primary role I think. As a freshman in college I was an INTP. When I was running an office and managing 40 people I was and ENTJ. Working on my own but in analysis I am an IN/STP. I’ve had the other major personality tests and all I can say is that apparently I have multiple personality disorder. 😉
I don’t completely believe in any of them but they are helpful for knowing in general how you relate to other people. I certainly wouldn’t make life changing decisions based on them, especially the online free versions.
Erica says
I got the Mediator (INFP-T). This would be pretty accurate as I dislike conflict, want to see everyone happy and heard, give almost everyone the benefit of the doubt, am pretty optimistic, and believe almost everyone is good or has some good in them. Honestly though, most of that has bitten me back at some time or another. However, I still believe in the good of people and want everyone to be happy.
Ellen says
“Architect personalities tend to believe that with effort, intelligence and consideration, nothing is impossible, while at the same time they believe that people are too lazy, short-sighted or self-serving to actually achieve those fantastic results.” Truer words never spoken. And they often apply to me. Ha! I’m INTJ-T.
Mistie says
I have taken this test a few times over the years and I am an INFJ
Sam says
INTJ-T
No wonder I love your blog so much!! Also this year I’ve copied you and made my own goals that I check into week to week. I can’t get over how much it has helped my finances but more than that, my self-esteem. I don’t think I ever realized how much I was saving or doing to better myself and my family. To see it on a screen right in front of me is a huge boost. Thank you Mavis.
Mavis Butterfield says
Goals are the best thing ever. Seriously.
Tanya says
Mine came up EXECUTIVE (ESTJ-T). I think I will take the test again and see if it comes up the same. This somewhat describes me but…
Brianna says
I got ISFJ on this test, though usually I’m INFJ; sometimes the middle letters change, but I always get introvert and judging. I love the Myers-Briggs personality types – so fascinating and helpful in understanding ourselves and how we interact with the world!
Teresa says
I am an INTJ female and have been reading your blog daily for at least 3 years- love your posts! An INTJ female is something to embrace and be very proud of in your life.
Diana says
A Logician here – INTP-A
“Imagine an immensely complicated clockwork, taking in every fact and idea possible, processing them with a heavy dose of creative reasoning and returning the most logically sound results available – this is how the Logician mind works, and this type has little tolerance for an emotional monkey-wrench jamming their machines.”
Oh yea, this thing has me pegged… lol..
“…no one is more enthusiastic and capable of spotting a problem, drilling through the endless factors and details that encompass the issue and developing a unique and viable solution than Logicians – just don’t expect punctual progress reports.”
“…and their minds buzz with ideas from the moment they wake up.” I have a friend who says that for every idea she has about something, I have at least 5. One of my brothers is the same way. We are idea machines, lol…
Diana says
My name is also Diana, and I’m a Logician INTP-A. How weird is that? Seriously, the description is so right on the mark, it’s eerie:
“People who share the Logician personality type aren’t interested in practical, day-to-day activities and maintenance, but when they find an environment where their creative genius and potential can be expressed, there is no limit to the time and energy Logicians will expend in developing an insightful and unbiased solution.”
Yup!
Carrie says
Not sure this works for me. DEFENDER PERSONALITY (ISFJ-T) The intro didn’t resonate with me. Some points in the relationship and career portions made sense. I read through some other descriptions and didn’t see anything else that really matched how I feel/think so maybe it is correct but I change everyday. I’m feeling pretty neutral today. It would be interesting to take the quiz on a “high day” and a “low day”.
Miriam says
One problem with the test is that it asks questions that can change if you are taking the test when you are upset. Taking the test on a neutral day is the best. There are a lot of criticisms of the MBTI personality test because people can get different results based off of their mood.
Even so, I have found that the most useful use of MBTI is in understanding others’ points of view. For example, I looked up my husband’s personality type and my own (ENFP and INTJ respectively). I thought he was doing certain things to make me angry, but I realized that it wasn’t on purpose, it was the way he saw the world. That helped us both see each other’s points of view and strengthen our relationship.
How the different types give/receive love:
https://personalityhacker.com/personality-type-ask-love/
One thing that people forget is that any personality type can be friends with any other type and they try to use it as a predictor of relationship success or they try to type everyone and take it too far. I have seen people online say that all people in one personality type are jerks, not realizing that kindness, compassion, and empathy aren’t measured in the test.
Joanna says
When I took this years ago at work, the proctor said to not answer the questions on how you are feeling now, or how you want to be, or how you think you should be, but how you just *are*.
Aunt G says
I’m a INTJ-A. What’s the A mean?
Anyway– wow! Cool! I didn’t know this about myself. No wonder I read this weird blog and have for years… I loved this. Very insightful.
Mrs. M says
Identity:
Finally, the Identity aspect underpins all others, showing how confident we are in our abilities and decisions:
Assertive (-A) individuals are self-assured, even-tempered and resistant to stress. They refuse to worry too much and do not push themselves too hard when it comes to achieving goals.
Turbulent (-T) individuals are self-conscious and sensitive to stress. They are likely to experience a wide range of emotions and to be success-driven, perfectionistic and eager to improve.
https://www.16personalities.com/articles/our-theory
Beth says
I took this many years ago and am an ENTJ. Pretty rare at 1-2% of women. I am the Commander…charismatic and confident with the added bonus of leadership qualities. Pretty accurate, as I am the planner in my group of friends and definitely the outgoing one. I am also an over-achiever as I’m currently am going back to school for my second masters. Also, I was a General Manager for a Steak ‘n Shake by the ripe old age of 20, while going to college full time!!
jodi-east coast says
so timely as i am also an INTJ and feeling a bit at odds at my new job. i dislike being an INTJ, it’s lonely and i’m constantly misunderstood (and yet i don’t care enough to explain/defend myself). sigh.
next on your agenda, mavis is the enneagram– what’s your number? 😉
Sarah says
Jodi- honestly, I have disliked being an intj too. It wouldn’t be my first choice; our culture seems to celebrate the extroverts, the people with 1000 Facebook friends, the women who are less direct than me.
I met my first true friend at age 18 who “got me” and loved me unconditionally and then I met my husband at age 29 who loves me–quirks and all–who can read my INTJ mind and make a joke before I can even make a comment about something.
If you don’t have one person in your life who gets you and truly knows you, I wish that for you. It makes all the difference.
I agree– what about enneagram, Mavis?
Mavis Butterfield says
I need to take it. I’ll see if I can get Mrs. HB to take it too.
FarmGirl says
Very interesting. I do not normally take any of the quizzes/tests, but I was intrigued. I am a ISTJ-A. It is mostly accurate. The career part is mostly true. This part is something I found true: Being somewhat bad at sensing others feelings, Logisticians’ “just the facts” attitude can be downright alienating when it comes to more sensitive personality types. I struggle with very sensitive people. I especially struggle with them at work. They frustrate me beyond measure.
Cindi says
INFJ — which is what I was years ago when I took the test. I’d say it’s spot-on, too.
wendy says
I am an INFJ and I LOVE your blog cause I totally get you!!! 🙂 I think the FJs and TJs are personality cousins. 🙂
Amanda says
I am back and forth between INTJ (mostly) and INFJ and they are never more than 6% apart. They both fit very accurately.
eliz says
I’ve taken it several times and was ISTJ, but that was years ago, maybe I should reaffirm . I think ISTJ is also rare for women.
Linda says
Hi Mavis. Another INTJ here. I guess we read your blog, enjoy it, and stay with it. 🙂 I have taken the Meyer-Briggs test many times over the years and always end up INTJ; however the distribution has changed a bit over time (I am 60 now). Both the N and the J functions are trending a bit more toward even with S and F. Unfortunately the introvert function just gets stronger and stronger as I age.
Gloria says
This explains why I subscribe to your blog. Years after subscribing to Art of Simple and The Nester I found out they are INTJ as well. It’s like a sixth sense, being able to seek out like-minded women. Google Meyer-Briggs Sherlock types. We are Sherlocks. Not sure if that’s good or bad.
Sarah says
Gloria- when I heard the podcast with Tsh and The Nester it was life changing for me as an INTJ. I felt I had finally found my people!
Laura says
INTJs represent! I felt the very same way when I read the description, especially the Introvert description (Introvert was my highest score).
What I find so fascinating is that while you and I, or me and someone else, might both test as an INTJ, we’re still so unique, our experiences, our likes and dislikes. What I sense when coming across another INTJ though is “I get this person” and a feeling that they would get me too. I’m guessing that it’s the same for others.
My husband is an ENTJ, just enough of a difference to keep things interesting between us!
bobbi dougherty says
I got the Defender ISFJ-T? lol. DEAD on though…
Very interesting! Thanks for sharing
Okie stuck in Portland says
I took this test a few years ago and I am an INTJ too! It validated all of the things that my extrovert husband says qualify me as crazy.
Wendy says
INTP, the Logician. I’m a research scientist in the biological sciences so that makes perfect sense!
Marsha says
I have avoided doing these tests but this one intrigued me. Had to see how close I would get to you Mavis! It gave me INTP, -A/-T But I am not convinced that I wouldn’t get different results if I took it multiple times, which I might sometime. Alot of the questions I felt would have a different answer depending on my mood or the specific situation. Whatever type I am, I always have a good dose of skepticism in my personality!
Miriam says
As an INTJ, I hate how sensitive people are to ‘conflict’. Raise your voice one notch? Conflict. Bring up problems before they balloon? Conflict. As an INTJ woman, it’s worse because you aren’t expected to meet problems head on simply because you are female. For me, even after I tell people to just let me know if they have any issues, they still don’t and then the problems just get bigger until they are too big to ignore. Even my best friend did this to me before she realized that it’s better to just talk to me (and me to her). In case anyone is curious, she is an ENTP, so she doesn’t fit a lot of stereotypes about girls either.
Sharon says
Well, huh, I’m a INTJ-A. Interesting. I wonder if relationship status makes a difference, I would have answered some of those differently if I was single ;o)
Lisa says
Another INTJ woman here! I tested a few years ago and felt immediate relief to learn that there were other people like me. (I retested and got the same results today) I was always artistic, but too logical to feel like I belonged to the emotional crowd, and I loved science and engineering, but never wanted to be tied down to one thing, there are so many interesting things to discover. So I read about whatever piques my interest until I feel like studying something else, all the while keeping my financial and personal goals on track in the background. I’m also a “scanner” (Ala Barbara Sher) or a “multipotentialate”. Love your blog!
Bekah says
So glad you took it and found it helpful! I found it a couple years ago and can say it kind of changed my life! Like you said, just knowing there are other similar people out there was cool and made me feel way more understood. I am totally INTJ as well, and women of this type are rare which is why I think it was always kind of hard for me to relate to a lot of women growing up and until recently. I find it just as fascinating!! 🙂
Erin says
ISTP here. Husband and daughter are both ITJs as far as I can tell. I can’t decide if they are S or N and they haven’t taken the test. My son is definitely an ENFP. Poor kid is the only extrovert in the family, but he doesn’t care. Life is a party for that personality type! The funniest thing for us is the last letter. P’s such as myself and my son prefer to live spontaneously, while J’s have to have everything planned out. Vacations are always interesting because son and I just want to get there and see what there is to do while daughter and dad must know how we are getting there, where we will stay, what we will eat, what/when/how/where/why we will do what we do. Makes me and my son crazy while I’m sure we them crazy too!
Mavis Butterfield says
I like to plan EVERYTHING out for our vacations… We are talking MAJOR list with a timeline. Ha! That being said, I can totally deviate from the schedule if something interesting/better comes along no problem. The Girl and I like having a plan. The boys? They’re up for anything. It’s kinda funny.
becky nelson says
I am ISFP-A
Leslie says
Me too! Pretty interesting.
Tonya says
Hi Mavis. Love your blog and the fun/crazy things you do and think. I am an ENTJ. Since I am a stay at home mom some of the “work” questions left me wondering. As a mom, your work is always being interrupted. Especially in the bathroom
Ashley says
INTJ here too. It makes a lot of sense after reading the explanations.
Julie says
I’m an INTP and my daughter is a INTJ. I’m totally typical of that personality. There’s a Facebook page that posts what each personality feels or how they respond to different situations. Every time, it’s spot on and I always think FINALLY someone gets me!
Andrea says
Yup, another INTJ here. I guess that is why I can relate to the things you write about, Mavis!
We had to take the Meyers Briggs test at work a few years ago and I was the only introvert in the group.
It is crazy to think that there are so few of us.
Susan says
Ha ha! Introverts unite! Hi Mavis – INTP here. I do process improvement for a living – lots of creative idea generation going on, and psychology of getting others to think in new ways to solve problems.
CathyB says
Another INTJ woman here. I have taken it more than once over a 30 year time span and have always gotten INTJ. However I do tend toward the middle on everything except N (extremely N) which means that at times I can operate more like some other combinations. Still INTJ describes me the best. I took the test almost 30 years ago while an RA at college and I ended up being the only INTJ woman. The INTJ group was by far the smallest group of RA’s anyway. The funny thing is that about 15 years later I was having a conversation with two of my best friends at church and we discovered that all three of us were INTJ women! We must have been drawn toward each other!
Mrs. M. says
Mrs. M. says:
I’m also an INTJ-A woman!
Mavis, your blog must attract readers with like minds!
It’s funny because sometimes I’ll read something here that I felt was very interesting or funny and my family politely smiles when I share it with them. They don’t get you the way I do, and now I know why! Lol!
I’m married to an ENFJ (for 23 years). We have a better marriage than any other married couple I know.
Both daughters tested as INFJ-T (rare combo…only about 1%), but they’re not THAT much alike.
This was fun and helpful! Thanks for sharing!
Lori SA says
Thanks for the link. I am a ISFJ-A, “the defender”, which describes me very well. In fact, the cartoon character shown with the description is a nurse- which I am. I laughed at the description “there is no equal in gift giving”, as I was just heading out to do some pre-Chrismas shopping (looking for good deals on stocking stuffers)!
Terry Compton Friedemann says
Mine came up, INFJ-A. Advocate. I knew I was somewhat introverted. Social situations can be a bit exhausting, but not always.
Lilypad says
I got Advocate Personality (INFJ, -A/-T) also. You, me, Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, and Nelson Mandela. 🙂 All social situations exhaust me, and being so sensitive is excruciating most of the time, but worth it if I can do some good in the world, however small my efforts.
Shannon says
I had a similar reaction when I took the test several years ago. INTJ woman as well. One of my closest friends and I both realized we were INTJ in the same month . . . it has been a gift to talk to her about how we each relate to our respective church and work worlds. Interestingly, INTJs tend to be agnostic or atheistic, so its strange that we’re both people of faith. I always thought I was just sucking at life by not being like other people, so it is wonderful to know I just have a unique perspective and that there are lots of us! No wonder I like your blog so much, Mavis. Thanks for sharing this.
Lynn r says
Me too. Intj architect … christian…..interesting.
Loretta says
Have you checked out the Enneagram? I think it is even more accurate than the MB tests. I’ve been both introvert and extrovert on the Myers Briggs over the years, but I am a Type 9 (Mediator/Peacemaker) on the Enneagram. And I still adore your blog:-)
Lorraine says
My daughter is an INTJ and she resembles the one of you in this post, Ponytail, glasses, hoodie and a thumbs up. Back when she took the test, 2.1% of the population were INTJ and we used to joke that 2.1 was the planet she came from. When we discovered comic con style conventions, we found the other people from her planet. lol. I’m an ISTJ but recently took the test again and came up INTJ, so I’m probably a little of both. Funny, I just did a 2 part post called, “What are you?” and it took me on a journey of self discovery as well.
jessica says
EXECUTIVE (ESTJ-A)
Which made me laugh.. until I read more and then thought about how I am at work… and it totally makes sense!
Renee says
I’m an INFJ-T Advocate. Makes total sense especially choosing a career in nursing.
Linda says
There is a tremendous amount of literature out there about how personality types relate at work, or in families. I own “Type Talk at Work” which is very helpful for understanding co-workers. There are also books focused on parent-child relationships, and husband-wife relationships. I would encourage checking these books out from the library.
I’m an ISTJ. I have three grown children, all of whom are extroverts (with a capital E). Had I understood what that meant back then, I would have either spent a lot of time reading and trying to apply that reading to enhance our relationships, or I would have taken more frequent solo vacations. My way of dealing with a question they had was to try to think quietly to come to a solution or answer. Their way was to press me repeatedly for an immediate answer. It’s hard to think to a refrain of PLEASE,PLEASE,PLEASE. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids dearly, but 3 extroverts are really stressful for an introverted mom! I’m sure they’d be happy to tell you that an introvert mom is a real buzz-kill at times, too. My middle daughter now has a 15 year old introverted girl. NYAhaha!
Lynn r says
Ok. i took it and got the same. Intj architect. So are like minded attractracted to your bolg or is the test flawed….hm.
Sarah says
Haha! Being skeptical of the test is a pretty intj behavior.
Jess says
If you had taken this test years ago you never would have moved into a HOA.
Lynne says
I guess I belong here, as I tested INTJ-T. I’m seriously not sure about this stuff, but it did suggest one career possibility for me as a lawyer, and I retired a few years back after nearly 40 years doing just that. Anyway, love your blog and am glad to find myself among so many like-minded people here!
Angela D. says
Hello, Mavis! The first time I took the Myers-Briggs (the full test has many more questions than this version) I was age 15, in high school. My result: INFP. Then, 10 years later, I was given the test by a local 4-year university counselor; same result. She thought it was interesting, as she had never administered the test to the same individual over a 10 year span. Fast forward to your link: same result! INFP- The Mediator. I find this sort of thing so interesting, thanks for sharing!
Daniel says
I’m INTJ male. Yeahhhhhh long term relationships haven’t worked for me. I get bored and leave. 🙁 wish I was something different sometimes.
Becky-TN says
Hi Mavis,
I have never completed the Myers-Briggs Test. I have done the test that basically takes the myers briggs and narrows the 16 personality types down to 4: Choleric, Melancholic, Sanguine and Phlygmatic. The test is in a book called: The Temperment God Gave You.
I do want to say, that as a parent, I can’t say enough about how important it is that we learn how to communicate and speak to our children (and spouses for that matter). For years, my oldest (a boy and phlygmatic) and I (melancholic – 100%) battled and fought. It wasn’t until years later, when a friend suggested the Temperment book, that I began to understand how to talk to my child. It was the starting point of healing in our relationship. It has also helped me to communicate better with other people I come into contact with. Not to mention, helped me to work on the weaknesses (reactionary, sensitive, perfectionist) within my temperment.
Their are various chapters that line up various spouse temperments and parent/child temperments.
Great blog, btw.
Becky-TN
Becky-TN says
Sorry, Temperament, not Temperment
Leslie H says
ENFP…that’s me! Came across Myers-Briggs many years ago, and found it so valuable.
Of course, my husband is an ISTJ — the exact opposite. Knowing the personality types has saved me much angst in trying to approach him with ideas, and feelings especially!
Also helpful with my kids…
Besides, it’s all so fascinating!!
Christine says
Couldn’t agree more! My hubs and I don’t have a single letter in common either! Knowing how very differently we’re wired is hugely helpful, and it does help with the kids when recognize each other’s traits in our girls and have something of a road map for navigating those places where we’re different. So interesting!!
SamiAm says
Hi there! Got here via my dash – I’m interested in MBTI and frequently read lit on it.
Despite the limited amount of INTJ/INFJs there are, I always seem to encounter many!
I am INXJ (meaning, I tend to tie in feeling & thinking – which mostly just annoys me; why is there an even number of questions?) though in some assessments i do test as either T or J…. but! I just wanted to say hello to fellow female INTJs and INFJs on this thread! Hi!
Christine says
I’m an ESFP Performer married almost 18 years to an INTJ Architect. Who says opposites don’t attract!? 😉 Fortunately, we both knew what we were getting in each other on the MBTI scale before we said our I Dos!
I first took the test in college about 25 years ago and I’ve taken it 3 or 4 times since then. I’m a huge fan of the system. My letters have never changed, but the important thing to realize about the test is that while certain, core aspects of our personalities are fixed, we go thru seasons in our lives when we rely more heavily on different parts of our personalities than others. Being married to each other hasn’t changed either of us per se, but age and the mutuality of marriage has caused both of us to move a fair amount on the spectrum of different components. I was far more extroverted when I was younger – an off-the-charts E! But as I’ve aged I’ve found myself more easily exhausted by social situations and become more selective about how and when to engage. Likewise, my husband’s T was off the charts when he was younger, but as he’s re-taken the test as he’s matured, his F score has gotten a lot higher. He’s still a T at heart, but with age has come a bit more tempering of his T. Fascinating stuff!
Angela D. says
Hey—that’s a very interesting observation! My husband and I have been together for 30 years and I agree with you: we haven’t “changed” each other, but maybe influenced each other???
INTJness says
I’m aware that I’m a rare!
gina says
Any ISFP’s out there? Adventurer type. Am I the only one???
Mavis Butterfield says
My husband! 🙂
Anna says
We are Mavis and HH in reverse! I am the ISFP and my husband is INTJ. Perhaps that is why I enjoy your blog. Lol! Great to have a malleable partner, right Mavis? 😉
Anna says
No Gina, you’re not alone! I am! 🙂
Krista says
I’m also an INTJ woman!
I took the test as part of a work training program, and because I work in the sciences, we’re a pretty odd bunch. The trainer put us into groups by I think the middle two letters, and I ended up on the NT group, which was the biggest, and we had to answer some problem solving questions and present them to the whole group. We did a pretty good job of answering the questions, I thought, but the feedback from the room was that we sounded very arrogant. Which was fascinating to me, because we’d just answered the questions as best we could.
And it’s when I realised that the rest of the world really does see things very differently to me, and explained why I was comfortable working in science. (My mother confirmed that I am strange. Said she’d known since I was tiny. I wish she’d given me a heads up!)
Cheryl says
Architect Personality (INTJ, -A/-T)
Apparently we are twins. 92% introverted, what a surprise…NOT.
TEL says
I’ve tested twice at different times in my life. First time INTJ, Second time INFJ. Maybe this explains why your blog is the only “normal” one I seem to be able to find. Many of the other ones annoy me eventually. I check in with you every week though.
Amanda says
I’ve just done this, after following from the link on today’s post. I am another INTJ, was initially surprised, but then realized that it did sum me up.Also probably explains the difficulty bi had in previous workplace. Now self employed and much happier.
Really enjoy reading your blog
Many thanks